Restoration: Home Improvements

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. Pamela can be reached at or

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. Pamela can be reached at or

by Pamela Laurence

I am on my way to Restoration
My Heart and mind are clearing – back to what I Am.
The walls, ceilings and floors that held in toxins are broken down
        thrown into the dumpster of fire. Buried in the Earth.
Heavy thoughts of sadness and fear that rested in mirrors around my life
        are tossed away – no more need for that!
Fresh winds blow through the open spaces – through the windows of my mind’s home.
Ancient rocks and bricks of stone are founding partners
        with the bones which hold up my body.
That which I have always loved remains
Just so!

Restoration – it is the promise of the word; it is the hope of humanity. It is in the childhood innocence of “do over.” Restoration – a beautiful thought of refresh; everything is new again, rebuilt on a foundation of everlasting love. When you face your home you are, in reality, facing yourself. The ancient teachings of feng shui stress how our homes are a reflection of ourselves. That is why you want to be mindful of your home and how it affects you. So, if you are seeing a need for home improvements, stop a moment and meditate on what would be the perfect improvement that would support your natural being – that would support the restoration of your mind, body and home.

Certainly you would choose to work with materials and finishes that are not toxic to you – materials and finishes that do not off-gas and poison the interior air quality of your home. Ask your builder to use environmental and healthy building products.

Let go of old couches, lamps that have had their day. Do not try to design and make home improvements with the idea of saving something that is stained, cracked, chipped, tattered or simply worn out. This would be like holding onto a grudge or a hate, which would only poison your own life; bless it all and release it. Give away books, dishes and towels that others may enjoy but for you…they will not restore you. Take this time for the growth opportunity – refresh.

Look at your lifestyle; know how you and your family live your life. How you move, how you relax, how you eat and sleep. Do not renovate for show – make your renovation truly a lifestyle and personal change. Do this for your own health.

Maybe the face of your house needs a facelift. Look to replace old windows and doors that creak and leak. You may notice that your eyes and your joints will feel better too once new ones are installed. Having to live with broken, stuck windows and doors day after day will mirror to you more strongly your own personal aches and pains and vision situations.

In your renovation, do not forget the environment outside your home. Your landscaping is just as important as that of your house. As without, so within. Trees are wonderful yet they can take your energy away if they have overgrown, blocking your pathways to your front door. Trees that could fall on your home in a storm may also need to be pruned or cut down – living in fear of that is not a way to live.

Some people like warm, cozy rooms where they can curl up and feel protected, some people love large, high ceilinged rooms where they may feel grand and powerful. The reality is that everybody needs both – the yin/yang of life. There are times when we all need to have our protected cave – a time to recharge. Then, there are times where we all feel we need the light of the day – a place to dance, twirl and be full of life.

If you want true restoration – a home to call your own – you need to get out of your own past-programed mind; past old thoughts that may not be doing you any good at this point in your life. You want to see what TRULY is. This may take some work. Daily meditation is a very good tool. Do not fall into the pattern of picking out trendy things that may look popular today but will be dated tomorrow. Once your programmed mind is set aside, you will see with your eyes and hear with your ears what is right for you!

Your house is a symbol, a metaphor, a reflection of you. Both your physical and your mental body are reflected in your home. You do not want to live in a house of bondage – trapped in a home that is fearful and ridged. You want to live in a heavenly house; one where your soul and your heart can live naturally and free. Aim for a house of peace and respect and enjoy restoring your life and home. My hope for you: all joy will be restored to you; you will not be afraid anymore. You must have hope and follow your heart. You can restore anything and your children will rejoice!



End of Year Chi Lift - Hire a Designer

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or

by Pamela Laurence

At the end of our year in the northern hemisphere, the light from our sun shortens our day as the Earth’s axis turns away from the sun. Darkness fills most of our day. As we age too, our families grow and children are no longer children – they have lives and goals of their own. Good friends of a lifetime start dying. Parents leave the planet or become aged and some in need of extra care. Marriages may become stale. You, yourself, may begin to experience aches and pains you never had before, both physically and mentally. You may ask yourself – “Is this it!? Is this what I can expect the rest of my life to be until the day I die?”  The answer is, “Well, no…”

You need a chi lift! Everyone does from time to time – even young ones and teenagers. Dark days can lead us to feel gloomy after awhile – As Without, So Within. Life may get to us from time to time. We may begin to feel down and out and experience the winter of our soul; sometimes even in the summer of our calendar year. It is quite natural to go through these moods. Remember, what looks like a bad thing may actually be a good thing. Sometimes these moods may be a way for you to re-access your life and goals. The key is to face them and not go into avoidance mode such as taking some form of alcohol or drugs, eating out of control, going on an unnecessary shopping spree, having an affair, becoming grumpy, gossiping about other people to make you feel better about yourself – or whatever your choice of avoidance may be.

Once you Face Your Self® – an unafraid look at what and where these feelings of doom and gloom are coming from – then and only then can you do something about them. Of course you cannot change the aging rate of yourself, family and friends and you cannot make a rainy, snowy day into a hot summer day unless you get on a plane and fly south – or north – depending on which hemisphere you live in. Life is life and things happen.

You can, though, change your perspective and brighten your surroundings. You can come to an acceptance that is in full awareness, so that the choices you make are fully intentional and not because you’re wildly grasping at straws to make a reality go away. And sometimes, once you Face Your Self,® what appeared as a reality actually is not.

Hire a designer! Find a teacher and bring your problems and obstacles to someone other than yourself. A designer can take a walk around your home and make suggestions to you as to how to update your home. Often, I will see people living in a home that has not been updated in 20 years! This can be most depressing, for often it reflects a person (usually it is just one person who is in control of the home) who cannot or will not move on.

Most designers and decorators are upbeat people; they love their work and love to move furniture, pick out new fabrics, colors and freshen a room for your current life. They bring joy and happiness to your door just by showing up! They also can push you a little out of your old comfort zone. They are well versed in lighting and its affects on a room and human lifestyle. Designers are masters of color and how color too can affect your moods. Allow your designer to become your therapist and friend – you will have fun and not become depressed dwelling on past upsets and about how sad you are. Of course you want to honor your past; however, remember that the past is the past. Your life is only as healthy as you are. Remember, your home reflects you! Enjoy the process of brightening up your life with new life. Walk forth!


To Bathe in Health

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or Pamela@faceyourself

Pamela Laurence is a healer.
She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or Pamela@faceyourself

By Pamela Laurence

Imagine a private, special place with a warm, secret pool and waterfall where you bathe your tired body. A place with a stone niche nearby holding natural flowers, roots and oils you use to cleanse and nourish your body, mind and soul. Imagine, too, the soft sounds of happy birds and a faint, fresh breeze which touches your heart as you gaze into your reflecting pond allowing your mind’s thoughts to drift away.

Imagine as you step from your secret spa, you dry and wrap yourself with the warmth of the soft, absorbent cloth that you left hanging in a nearby spot. Your feet are secure and grounded on the earth. Refreshed and in balance again, you move aside the door of branches - joyfully ready to face the world recharged.

What is your bathroom like? Is it a room where you care to spend relaxed, unhurried time or is it a place to get into, do your business and get out? When you shower or bathe, do you do it as a chore such as taking out the garbage? Is there harsh lighting or florescent light casting a blue pallor over your skin? Do you feel cramped and unable to move comfortably in your bathroom space?

Most bathrooms have the toilet right next to the tub or sink. If I had my choice, I would put toilets and bidets in separate rooms off the “bath” room, for I see two completely separate functions here. Elimination is a normal, healthy body function where we release and let go, yet why do we have to have it in our face while we bathe? The toilet is quite a downward energy drain that when seen from tubs, showers or the hallways of our home can, on a subtle level, pull our energy down. I advise you to put a small screen in front of the toilet if there is space to screen it off from view.

At least keep your door to the bathroom closed, especially if you sleep in a room with the bathroom in view from your bed. A fun solution to the downward energy pull of the toilet is to place an object on the toilet tank that represents explosive energy such as a jar of un-popped popcorn or an unopened bottle of champagne, which will, on an unseen energy scale, counterbalance the energy drain.

I see showers, bathtubs and hot tubs as places for meditation, nurturing and wonderful sensuality as well as cleansing (this may be because I am more of a water personality). It is lovely to sit in your tub and feel the water cascading down upon you from the showerheads, washing the day away. There is nothing better than being bathed and lovingly sponged by a loved one - either a mother bathing a child or as lovers bathing each other. There are so many wonderful tubs and shower stalls to choose from. Pick colors that can reflect a soothing scene for you and sizes that fit your body (bodies) and budget. Chances are you drink a lot of bottled water with mindfulness toward your health. Your skin absorbs water too. Get your water checked and add a filter system if needed.

If you are feeling angry or fiery, take a shower or bath. Water puts out fire; bathing will calm you down! A real luxury is to have a hot tub outside in your garden where you can relax and watch the movie of the sky and treetops during all seasons.

Mirrors add to your reflection ponds. However, be mindful of what else the mirror is reflecting - the toilet? the dirty laundry pile? a corner of the moldy wallpaper? Speaking of mold - stay away from carpeting your bathroom floor. Choose a ceramic or stone/marble floor; just be careful of slipping on some of these surfaces when wet.

Ventilation is important in a bathroom. The best choice would be an old fashioned window that can be opened to let in the fresh air. Many ventilation fans are so assaulting to the senses making such a loud racket that you could never relax with that sound; feeling that perhaps, you too, will be sucked up into the vast unknown of the venting system.

I see sinks as nurturing areas where we can brush our teeth, wash our hands and shave. Freestanding sinks are very pretty yet don’t allow space around them for the tools of the trade, i.e. toothbrush, cups, shaving stuff, soap, washcloth and makeup. Beauty is important but function is even more important from a design perspective. Combining beauty and function is the quest. Surround yourself with natural sponges, candles, scented oils, sea salts and special goblets for wine or pure water.

Bathrooms can become your private getaway and nourishing spa. They are rooms to bathe and refresh your soul - allow the flow of the water’s cleansing properties to wash over you. I invite you to create sensual bathrooms and enjoy the art of bathing for yourself and your loved ones.

Living with Nature Spirits

by Pamela Laurence

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or Pamela@faceyourself.

Pamela Laurence is a healer. She is a leading holistic lifestyle educator. She can be reached at or Pamela@faceyourself.

Beloved elf and fairy
Jump and dance around
The trees and plants obliging
Not a care to be found.
The sunlight warms the clover
The rain puddles on the rose
Together the elf and fairy play,
As the gardens grow.


How does your garden grow? What is growing in your garden? Where does your garden grow? To live in balance with nature – that is our goal; that is our birthright! After all, we are natural beings. When we live in tune with the natural forces of our planet, we live a life of ease. Despite our fast-paced computer age, how many natural ways do you surround yourself? Or it might be easier to ask yourself how many artificial ways you surround yourself; artificial light, poor air quality, artificial flowers, foods, materials and surfaces. Look at your home as another layer of your skin. What is natural in your home?

Bring some fresh flowers to your dining table and to your nightstand. Cut them from your own gardens. The true scent and pure color of a real flowers have so much more life force and healthy vibrations to offer you over artificial plants and man-made aerosol or plug-in scents. Real flowers will aid in your digestion and sooth your sleep vs. that of an artificial flowers. Plus, you can also call upon the spirit of the flower to bless you and fill you with its essence of joy and serene beauty. Plants are very much alive and speak. They have a presence and a personality just as a pet or a person. Observe their color and shape; look closely and listen. There is one life force that flows in and through everything. By knowing this, plants can become a tool aiding your health and wellbeing.  

Try placing a plant in the center of your home or in a room with the intention to create a breath of vital, healthy life, thereby setting up a resonance between you and the plant. Plants pick up on your energy – that is why those who spend time talking and relating to their plants generally have happier and healthier plants and live a more relaxed life.

When you look to design your gardens or landscape, I invite you to start from your front door – standing from the inside! Open your door and windows and imagine what you would like to see each morning when you leave home. What plants and trees would you like to have greet you, inspire you and lift your energy for the day? Create a magical path to walk upon as you leave your home. Try to avoid getting into your car through your garage where you don’t experience fresh air, or any radiant faces of happy flowers and the fresh smells of nature. Too easily and for too many years, our society has been aimed toward technological development, which is not totally a bad thing. But, like everything else in life, we need balance.

There may be days when you need not experience the outdoors. With more and more roads, indoor parking lots, malls and office buildings, we are beginning to feel the effects of this imbalance, through stress related and immune type diseases. Trees remove gases, restore and supply oxygen, improve air and water quality, make topsoil, circulate moisture, reverse industrial impacts and offer a nice shade on a hot summer day. We need clean air to fill our lungs to breathe and survive. The Earth needs trees, which act like the planet’s lungs, to freshen the air we breathe. I encourage you to plant trees and shrubs – as many as you can. Support environmental programs and honor the nature spirits of air, wood, water and fire. If the trees don’t thrive and live a healthy, happy life, the nature spirits will not be able to dance and play and then “we” may go away.